Tuesday 29 October 2013

Grandparents and Grandchildren


Some how I see such wonderful grand parents around and see grandparents like my parents and  my in-laws who refuse to bond with my children. 

My mother buys clothes and toys for my children but she gets angry with them. She doesn't realise the bonding comes from playing with them and spending time with them. She comes back from work in the evenings and sits in front of the mindless TV, as we call it. In the mornings she is so busy with her work that she doesn't have time to spend with them.

She probably loves them but complains about them all the time. She says they never listen to her and that they are a pain and she cannot handle them. I would have loved to see my children bond with their grand parents but looks like that is not going to happen. My father is lovely with them but he lives so far, far away that he cannot spend time with them. He buys plenty of stuff for them, clothes, toys, sweets, etc. and my kids love him too, but then spending time with them even once a month is not happening.

As far as my in-laws are concerned, they seem to love my son as he is the "heir" to the family (as though they belong to the royal family) and my daughter is ignored. None of them in my husband's family ever remember my daughter's birthday and everyone wishes for my son's birthday. When my father-in-law goes for a walk, he will call my son - not my daughter. They both are just two years apart, what is the point in taking one child out for a walk and leaving the other one at home? Why this bias? I just get irritated and don't send my son as well. I don't want my children treated differently.

Looks like my children are not lucky to have good grand parents.

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